So you are saying basically a band needs a stage leader? It was you or somebody else that used that term to describe how I tried to direct things on stage.

OK, I get that having somebody that is "the boss" could be a drag and make it not fun, but how do you keep things from floundering? I feel like I'm trying to herd cats! :-). At the moment, I'm stepping back and letting the others figure out what is going on.

I'm in this for fun, but I also want to accomplish something. Otherwise, I feel like I'm wasting my time.